While on the Job

The lifestyle habits has been drastically changed now a days with youngesters as they have to spend stressful hours in airconditioned rooms with computers.

To maintain small side activities during these long stressfull hours will keep you mentally and physically relaxed...

1...Keep your eyes away from the computer in every 20 to 30 minutes and look around. Then close your eyes with palms and relax for few seconds.

2...do some sitting exercises off and on by turning your upper body to left and right, your hands streched and back and legs streched.

3...Walk as much as you can, if your job is of "remain seated type". Walk everywhere--take staircase instead of lift,park your vehicle far away to have a small walk,get off the bus one stop before your stoppage and walk to your home/office.

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Marriage

Marriage is a converting institution. If it is a love marriage,it converts lovers to husband and wife and if arranged, it converts husband wife to lovers.

From statistics, it is seen that husband and wife do not remain lovers for long. Considering all other parameters being normal, the reason is, the closeness without coordination. More you remain with a person , more it becomes difficult to make him of your type, your thinking and to adopt him/her your way of life.

Remember, husband and wife are two individuals and God has made each and every individual in unique way with unique attributes and personality. Both can't be one as their liking and disliking differ. Love doesn't last long after marriage because of conflict.

Try to overcome the conflict and enjoy married life.

Marriage is a beginning to compound the social life. Question comes - why do we marry ? Simple answer --- to make children and to sustain a characterful healthy society. Because when we die, our children will be part of the society. And from society, we can be benefited for any of our social and psychological needs

If above point is seriously thought of, the marriage becomes a  consecrational rite.

Causes of conflicts:

1. If the needs and wants are not met.
2. Difference in opinion and perception.
3. Assumptions and Doubts.
4. Expectations and lack of self submission
5. Too much stubborn behaviour
6. Not to ignore the things of small values and importance.
7. Mistrust or Cheating.

These causes of conflicts start to change the behaviour gradually and may lead to tear apart the relations between husband and wife.
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Indications of weakening ties:

1.  Inadequate communication : There should always be a continual communication between husband and wife, even if it is negative, unnecessary and unwanted. If there is no communication, the ties weaken further. It indicates that both of them now have no interest in each other.
2. If both are unable to solve any serious issue and no solution is acceptable to both of them.
3. When there is argument almost every day even on petty issues.
4. When couple feel uncomfortable in spouse presence and start demeaning the opposite one and relatives of other half.
5. Before marriages, the Boy dreams of a reel heroine type of wife and the Girl dreams of a reel hero type husband. But reel life is not the real life. Gradually these dreams get shattered and the attraction diminishes from both the sides. Couples should understand the Real life and respect each other. They should not expect every thing from their counterpart If they don't, ties weaken rapidly.
6. The method of parenting if differs in couples, it also leads to weaken ties.
7. Attraction to opposite sex and being unfaithful is the main reason of weakening ties and perhaps most devastating in couples life.    

Solution to keep the love full and steady:

1. Keep a high moral value and don't cheat your life partner.
2. Take care of needs and wants of your partner and in case of any conflict arising, try to solve it mutually.
3. Respect the values and sentiments  of each other.
4. Be like a friend and keep yourself open after marriage. Don't disclose the premarried life events, if it is going to hurt or create unsafe sense in your better half.
5. Spend as much time as you can with your children and family. This bond is very necessary for happy family.
6. Share each other's load in household task.
7. Keep your personal lens or perception positive towards your spouse. In case of any doubt, 
8. Visit places of interest at least once a year to take rest from your routine job.
9. respect each other's sentiments.
10. No couple in the world is ideal. Everybody is liable to commit mistake and one has to learn from it. Encourage each other for positive actions and make corrections on mistakes  

     

Parenting

Parenting is a family art. Mother and Father are the artist and the child is the canvas. Behaviour of parents are the brushes and emotions are colours. The combination of all these components brings up the child's character and the beauty on the canvas surface.

Remember that the culture imbibed in the childhood remains always in the personality throughout the life.

From just born to --- 2 to 3 years old :

1... The child needs the closeness, the closeness of mother and father.

2... Affection and timely food are the only things that the child requires during this period. Rest of the activities are secondary for her/him and automatic.

3...Play with her/him. Take her/him on and off in your lap till he/she is big enough to walk, walk with holding hand and regularly hug him/her, smile, caress in your lap till he is grown big enough to carry in lap.

4...Try to become of the age as of your child and interact. Speak to her/him in. Play with him. Give enough time for him.

5... Avoid creche, Ayahs as much as you can. Child has been in the body of the mother for 9 moths and such closeness, the child would not like to weaken so easily. If you can't avoid , keep an alert eye on Ayah at home and through CCTV connected to your mobile.

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Remember, you are matured and you can control your emotions, but the child can't.

6...At home, keep all medicines, cutlery, sharp objects, small objects, coins etc...which can be easily swollen by child, beyond reach.

Also, avoid to give toys of small size and even those which can be easily broken to small portions. When the child plays with it, it may break or torn to small pieces.

7...Children play at bed and roll also. Better to keep the bed at the corner of the room and sorround it by cushions. Also some cushions at the floor around the cot would help, if they roll while sleeping and you are in kitchen, bathroom or attending caller at the entry door.    

8...Sliding windows and doors are quite popular now days. These have latches and get shut on full closure from inside. There is no provision to open from outside once closed.

 It is suggested to keep a gap and take precaution, While you are out side say at veranda and by chance the sliding panel is becomes closed by you or by your child ,the child becomes trapped inside the house/flat.

9...Don't leave the washing machine top left open. The kid if reaches at the top may fall down inside of the opening.

From 5 Years to 10 years:

During this age the children learn more from school than from home. They develop new friends, understand relations, learn sharing food and study material, speak about their home atmosphere, their parents and also learn to share with friends and siblings.

1...Don't rebuke your child unnecessary or on trifle issues. Either teach them or ignore them. Children have monkey's habit and very energetic in this age. If they don;t obey you, try to persuade them.

2...Never use the words like " Are you mad ?, You fool ! Duffer.." etc while you are angry with your child. Children are very tender in emotions and such words imbibe in their minds forever. They may take any dangerous decision or gradually go to depression.

3...Teach your children to grow  a normal behaviour  towards physically or mentally challenged children. Teach them that all are alike. They also have same sentiments as other children.

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